One last Mission for Parker
Some of you may know that a while back my wee little friend Parker passed away of Cancer at a very young age. This little dude lived life with “Character” and I say “Character” because truly was a snuggle monster, a funny monster and at times and (very rarely) hahaha!…he was…well, lets just say…he was hell on wheels out to cause some trouble….just the way I liked him best! A true little MONSTER! HA!
Parker was Smallville’s #1 FAN. So his funeral was very fitting when it was a SUPER HERO themed service where we all had to dress up like our favorite Super Hero’s. Parker sat at the front on the room, not in urn, but instead tucked away in a Play Station Box…TOTALLY his style!…like I said the kid had character.
Alex, Parkers mom did an amazing job at fulfilling every dream a kid could have in one very short lifetime. Parker’s life was filled with the most amazing journeys and experiences thanks to the compassion of people and his mom’s hard work.
A few short months after Parker passed away I hung out with Alex and her son Broody at the Aquarium in Vancouver…during a quiet moment Alex dug into her purse and pulled out a tiny travel Advil container, and announced, “here is bit of Parker!” “WHAT!?” was my answer, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN? PARKER? HE IS IN THE ADVIL CONTAINER!?” “Yup” Alex said with a big smile on her face…”I have a mission for you, Parker Style.”
Ok soooo, I could handle this one or two ways…first I could get all WERID that I was holding parking in an Advil container or I could try and see thru the eyes of child and imagine what he must have been thinking, when he requested this. So I pushed aside being uptight, took a swig of my Aquafina water, dove into my imagination and was quickly seeing the world thru the eyes of a child. FUN! I gotta hang out in this demension more often!
“OK” I said “I will accept the mission.” “Great!” Alex said, “here’s the deal, I have been spreading Parkers ashes in ALL the places that he loved, and one of the places he loved most was SMALLVILLE. Do you think you could find a place at Smallville to sprinkle a few of Parkers ashes?”
Could I?…Would I?…Should I?” would Smallville be cool with this? Dare I even ask? Could others step back and see thru the eyes of a child? I wasn’t so sure…I didn’t know what to do. I knew exactly where I wanted to do it…but wasn’t sure if I COULD do it…I mean this is a BIG deal…A BIG DEAL! I had Parker in my hand…Parker!…in an Advil container!…I couldn’t let him down…so, I put Parker in my purse and told Alex I would find a way!
The next few weeks I carried Parker around in my purse with me…I kinda liked him in there…but was a wee bit worried that someone might dig thru my purse looking for an Advil only to find Parker AHHHHHHHHH! NOT FUNNY! I mean, listen, I don’t think everyone would be that cool about this, some might be down right offended! But, I was ok with this…this was between me and Parker now.
Soooo late one night on the set of Smallville, Parker (in the Advil container in my back pocket) and I were cruising the sets. I knew exactly where he would want to be, a place where all the action, drama, tears, and memories happened on Smallville. I wanted to full fill his wish, as crazy as some might think it is, Smallville has touched they lives of so many people, and here I was a messenger for a little dude who wanted to make a permanent tribute to the Smallville cast and crew…I realized in that moment it wasn’t up to me to judge this wish or decision, nor was it up to others to claim if this was a good or bad thing to do. So I quietly did what I had come to do and sprinkled Parkers ashes in a very special place where he will be high up like an angle looking down on the cast and crew.
taylor nikole
November 26, 2008awww kendra
i think i would be feeling the same way if i was carrying around the ashes of someone i cared about… in my purse.. in an advil bottle.
It was also nice how much thought you ultimately put into this…
like you could automatically say that he wanted to be here or there…
but you seemed to give it a little more thought
(well ofcourse)
wow, i actually don’t know what exactly to say to this blog…
im at a loss for words actually