Taylor

hahahah this sounds like the advice you always give me about
trying things and seeing where my limits are… and trying to surpass them… because we learn by doing and making mistakes etc

awesome blog

G

Oh I love failure. We’re well acquainted and it makes me enjoy my accomplishments so much more. OK, I don’t LOVE failure, but we’ve made peace…Kind of…

genvixen79@yahoo.com

…actually its happening to me right now, I’m at this point in my life where I am having a flashback to what i imagined I would become 5 years ago. On my part, i know i did my best to be able to achieve whatever i dreamt of, but i guess circumstances beyond our control doer really takes place…and that really proves the mystery of life..we dont really know what will happen next…but at least we tried and we learned from it,

Laurenelle

I think it’s great that you’re posting a personal blog about something that is probably a common feeling to a lot of people. I can relate to the feeling of pushing my limits, because I feel like every day of college challenges me to do that. I have stopped to wonder – is this all too much? Is it what I really want? Those are things that make me, like you mentioned, wonder if where I am is really who I want to be.

Thanks for a great post.:) I love that you have a strong vision of where you want to go! More power to you.

Marianne

I am now aware that I will never sing professionally

Greetings from the failtrain!

G

Robin Sparkles, Mari. Robin Sparkles.

Marianne

Lets go to the mall today after building sandcastles in the sand?!

G

Sing it, sistah! SING IT! *tapes to put on fail blog*

Zak

Yea. definitely! just recently for me as well..

What one can accomplish at any given time is really a question of resources (time/money/talent etc) and if you’re really pushing yourself you’ll inevitably bite off more that you can chew. After you do, you learn to pick and choose what you can really accomplish with your current resources. But not being able to pursue something because of a lack of resources is always tough…especially when you see ppl who do have them and aren’t doing shiyte with them!

In regards to failure, i think if you love to learn and want to challenge yourself you’re gonna encounter a lot of it. If you’re ambitious on top of that, even more. Failure is good for learning but it can be especially frustrating when you know where you want to be but feel like you’re not progressing. I think at times like those you just have to be patient, follow your gut and trust that there is some force out there that will guide you in the right direction.

But even if there’s not, it doesn’t really matter anyways. Life is SO short and the bitterness of failure will always be more palatable than the regret of not trying!

Anyways, thats my two cents sorry I’m not a girl or a teen… just surfing through (on my way to the “guys by better fortune” website )…couldn’t resist this question!!

wish you ladies the best,

Zak

Kailin

Awesome blog, K.

It’s short, but sweet, and so true for many of us. I can really relate to you about trying to do it all, only to find that you can’t do it all 100% at the same time without something giving. Then you step back and have to rexamine and rethink commitments. When this happens, it makes us more determined and focused on reaching our goals more and helps us appreciate the success when we achieve it.

We’re only human, and as my friend Caitlin Crosby says, we all have flaws. This is what makes life interesting. Back in January when I wrote the article about New Year’s Resolutions, it started me on an awesome kick to challenge my limits. Though I’ve done a bunch of stuff I made resolutions for, I’ve yet made it to the comedy stage to try stand up. And I’m slapping my head for thinking why did I even think about putting that down on my list. ?????

So glad you’re back!!!

KG

superkurre

@Laurenelle
College definetly gives you that feeling. I’m working on my masters thesis at the moment and the feeling that it’s just too much is overwhelming sometimes.

But I’ve been here before, there are things I’ve done that I look back at and think “how the heck did I do that?” I’m certainly not where I thought I was going to be when I was younger, but where I am now is not a bad place. Although I am almost done with college I still kinda feel like a failure simply because I haven’t been able to find a job. But times are rough and I’m certainly not the only one in this situation. It’s just another challenge I’m sure I’ll beat somehow. I hope…

Ramanatha

Well Kristin, there are realistic and unrealistic goals. It is true that you learn by trying and failing until you finally realize what you really want in life. But, it is important to know what you’re strengths are, what you are really good at and then set a goal to achieve what you really want to achieve. The trick is also to know yourself more, who you really are. When I was very young, I was very idealistic and I thought that I could change the world. Now that I’ve matured, I try to balance idealism with the reality of the world. That doesn’t mean that you must forget your true ideals, because a great ideal is what keeps you inspired in life. For many years, I’ve felt I am reaching my goals and I can get all that I want in life. The more you grow inside the more you thrive in love and happiness, until one day you will feel completely fulfilled.

scott123

Well, there are three things I believe:

1. You are a woman of remarkable character.

2. You are stronger than you think you are.

3. You are smart enough to read a map.

Your friend in navigation,
Scott123

Elodie

I always need new challenges, i just imagine them but don’t know how to realize them, because there is always sth that make me think i won’t be able to. and you have all your commitments you have to achieve. so i usually leave aside the things i you really want to do.
my dreams are big so i’ll try to push myself and be open to failures which is usually scares me!

really good post!
xoxo

Animator

You know what they say…

Try again.
Fail again. [if you happen to fail]
Fail better.

My favorite quote.

Cristina

Hi everyone

It is curious/funny to read this. When I was a little girl, I always wanted to become a person I would never be… I mean, I loved it (and I still loving it, I think xD), I really wanted it because it was beautiful and special for me. I could not express what I felt about it. But I just could not live that life. It was incompatible with my life at that moment.

When I was 16, I realize that I had to change my mind and find another way to take. Another way to live. It was sad and hard… but I learned that it was not the only thing in life. It could be more and different things. But you have to live your own expierence, and find (which is not easy… I have not founded it yet V_V lol) what things you want/do not want in your life

Trust me, your life could be like you want. But, ironically (or maybe not), you have to wait to one of these fine days to see a flash of lightning that change your vision (ohh, this looks nice lol). The “sadness” is that you have to wait, continuing growing up… and time passes TOO slowly :S…lol. But passes

Kisses and more kisses for you all, ladies!

p.s. Oh, don´t forget we are not identical . Maybe your life will be different. You know this advise, for example…

robertrka

Well, very nicely put. I absolutely agree that delusions can inhibit one`s total outlook on life, in terms of achieving a certain goal. I don`t have to go into any type of “specifics” however, you`re right in when you say that it takes a certain type vision in order to visualize where you can actually see yourself or envision your situation later on down the your path…

The magnificent thing about vision I like is that it prepares you for something greater than you can even realize…

The one thing that I must stress though and that is don`t sell yourself short! Often times we can let distractions enter into our mind and cloud our vision… There was one point where I can remember my ” Old Sifu” telling me, if there was something that I didn`t like about my life, change the way I do things.

So then I began incorporating daily practice of vision, meditation, and daily prayer before I actually before would start doing anything mentally or physically related. What this does for me is, it free`s up some of the mental garbage that enters my mind. So then what happens sometimes the vision becomes euphoric and it happens naturally!

I do enjoy reading this blog Kristin and please don`t even remotely hesitate in writing some more! Very nice, Thank you!

Marilyne

When I was young, having great notes at school, I thought and saw myself saving people in hospitals or so. Then, I had Chemistry and Physics courses in last years of high school and realized I would not get the required notes or interest. I always thought I would go in a science program in college, but then, seeing I was not on the right path, I changed my mind and got in the language program instead. Back then, I thought I wanted to be a French as a second language teacher, then an English as a second language teacher. Then, last Fall, I had to choose an optional course. I had chosen Politics, Psychology and Economy. They finally gave me Politics on my schedule. The thing is, I was offered, the semester before, to help students with French problems. I thought it would help me see if I would like to teach. But…then, because the Politics class was at the same time the French tutorat was, I could not do both, so they did not give me the tutoral part. At first, I was quite disapointed, but then, when I had my first Politics class, I knew it was going to amazing! I was really interested mostly in international stuff. So guess what, when it was time to apply for a program at university, I chose Public Affairs and International Relations instead of teaching!

I believe that nothing happens for nothing. Sometimes, something that may at first appear as a failure is actually something that will push you forward to what you really wanted without even knowing it at the time.

“Failure” is not a dead end, it’s an indication and whatever happens, you’re still on the road, heading to your dreams and hopes, as foolish or idealistic they may seem.

thanks for the blog, really nice to know what and how you think Kristin, always a pleasure to read

ImAwesome

I totally agree with this post. Failure is an essential part of life. Maybe not only as a snap back to reality but in my personal experience it has also been quite the catalyst. In the sense that every time you fail it can either make you feel like giving up or really concentrate and try your hardest on your next endeavor be it a bad test grade or even trying to pass your road test.

p.s. I can’t believe that i can no longer be anonymous because of this email picture thing i have on another site im like the only dude on this. I’ll stick around for the insightful blogs though and lets be honest here also for kristin…lol

samiG12

Hola, buenas Kristin.

Estube leyendo tu articulo y eso que sientes es normal en una persona, todos pasamos por etapas, algunas duras otras suaves, pero siempre pasamos por cosas que a lo ultimo nos hacen madurar y aprender mas de lo que es la vida.

Te puedo decir que en mi experiencia, e aprendido mucho a valorar las cosas que tengo y que no tengo pero que si quisiera tener, pero nunca se sabe si en un futuro llegaras a hacer cosas que ni tu misma te puedes imaginar.

Mi consejo es este. Ariiba hay un Dios, un Dios que escucha a pesar de todo los problemas que pases, un Dios que te ama y que cuida de todo el peligro que pases, un Dios que siempre vela por tu salud y la de tu familia, un Dios que tiene misericordia de ti como de todos nosotros. Ese Dios es el unico en este mundo que te puede ayudar, creeme es lo mejor que nos puede pasar, te invito a que lo conozcas y se que no te arrepentiras de haberlo conocido.

Las cosas pasan por una razon y un motivo, esa razon es para hacerte mas fuerte y el motivo es para que triunfes y puedas enceñar a otros por lo que tu has pasado.

Espero que estas cortas palabras te haigan ayudado por lo menos en algo de reflexion. Cuidate mucho y espero que sigas adelante, busca de Dios. Te quiero mucho Kristin Laura

God bless you…kiss

kakang

I cannot choose my incoming challenges in life, if ever I can, I will absolutely declare peace and understanding and love, so that, war is over.. We can make it happen one day, by swallowing our pride.. Love u kk..

dom

I think It is true we learn from our failures, but I think that we must learn to know ourselves, and to know our strengths
because too many failures can be hazardous to our mental health
and why becoming someone we are not ?

robertrka

I recently posted a comment in terms of vision and how intermediaries can get in the way of that vision in terms of of making the vision become a delusional reality…

Today something really hurtful happened to me, my vision became flawed. Someone really special I thought deleted me from there profile. I asked myself was I wrong in judgment? Is there any thing that I could have done differently?

As much knowledge as I have and as much awareness that I posses, there was no way I could have seen what was coming today. Needless to say I wound up closing my MySpace profile… I was totally delusional into thinking that this person really cared!

At any rate to have so much knowledge that I have been taught is it maybe because of the fact that I have not experienced what it is to totally be intimate with someone? Is this the life that was chosen for me? A higher spacial realm? I guess the reason why I was sent here is to walk this planet in peace never knowing what it would be like to be totally committed to someone…

I mentioned before in my earlier comment Kristin is that I do pray to the Holy Spirit, its a very hard life at times, sometimes I feel that there is no peace. Then at times I also wish that I could be taken into loving peace where I would not have to walk this planet anymore.

Delusional? Yes I am. Tell me Kristin where do I go? Just having knowledge does not make me even remotely complete? What do I do? How do I get there? What are my challenges? I can only help and reach out to people but first I need to know my challenges.

Thank you Robert!

M1ch3l

Hi Kristin,
we spent some time in life, sad and disappointing for a moment. It now is that we really see are the real friends, people you can trust. As I said samiG12,
there is a God at the top and knows what he does.
As Jesus said: Love your neighbor as yourself …. This is a way to find the true friends
Kisses,

Michel – Brazil

Ramanatha

Hello Kristin!
I’d like to translate the message from samiG12 which is in Spanish.

Hello, cheers Kristin.

I have been reading your article and that that you feel is normal in a person, we all go through stages: some of them hard and others smooth, but we always go through things that at the end make us more mature and to learn what life is all about.

I can tell you that in my own experience I have learnt to give value to things that I have, and those that I do not have but I would like to have, but one never knows if in future you will be able to do things that you couldn’t even imagine.

My advice is this: above there is a God, a God that listens in spite of all the problems you’re going through, a God that loves you and takes care in all dangers, a God that always watches for your health and your family, a God that has compassion for you and for all of us. That God is the only one that can help you; believe me it is the best that can happen to us. I invite you to know him and you will never regret it.

Things occur for a reason, and the reason is to make you stronger so that you can succeed and then teach others what you have gone through.

I hope that these brief words have helped you at least to reflect. Take care of yourself and continue ahead, and look for God.
I love you very much Kristin Laura.

November Rain

No one’s perfect, but i guess everyone has goals, these goals for some maybe direct and clear, and for others they maybe vague. However, they r goals. U may reach them or u may not. My opinion is when u put in mind something to reach, u should work on it with every power u have at the same time put in mind to ”let go” of the result, so that u don’t wakeup one day and find out that what u thought would be easy to achieve is infact ”NOT EASY” and this may lead to disappointment, depression and frustration. U should enjoy the ride, motivate urself to do better, if u fall try to standup again and again, feel good and happy that ur on ur way to achieve what u want. If the results come up as u desire and want then it’s a winner situation for u, and if they don’t u r also a winner since u had the power and the guts to take this path and tried ur best, give credits to ur self and learn for next time u wanna set another goal and another.
As for me, i have a ”general” goal in my life to reach which is very important to me and i’m on the path. Every once in a while, and i’m on the road to reach what i want, i evaluate myself, am i on the right track? What have i done or reached so far? Do i need to do more? How can i over pass the failures that encountered me? etc. There r times that things happen beyond our control, but that’s life, has its share of obstacles. If i don’t reach to what i want, i won’t feel down coz i prepared myself to accept the result. I believe that one should have patience, persistance, determination and be happy when setting a dream or a vision or a goal in life… keep learning coz it’s one of the important tools that can leads u ”FASTER” to what u want and also have faith coz it’s one of the most important tools that can lead u in an ”EASIER” way to reach ur goalS. And one last thing ”no pain no gain”, for what i believe, u only live once, consume all ur power, energy and strength (mentally, physically and spirituality)to the max.
Peace to All
Ayman M.

Kailin

I had to write in again because you really hit the nail on the head with this blog, as to the state of how many people are feeling these days. It takes courage to admit limitations, but by admitting to them and recognizing them, you are one step closer to knowing how to overcome your limits. One thing to keep in mind for many people going through the same situation as you are, right now is to never take good fortune and good friends for granted. Be happy with what you have and who you are…just like the little smiling faces belonging to the children on your trek. They have nothing, yet they are happy.

I know of people who have everything, wealth beyond belief, yet they are not happy, and have no real friends because they are suspicious of anyone who would want to be friends with them, thinking they want to be their friends because of their wealth. And I’ve also encountered people who have nothing except for the shirt on their backs, who are happy to even get a chance to audition for a part or sit down and have a cup of coffee with someone. They are the most grateful and happiest people around, relishing every opportunity they get in life and appreciating everyone they have – friends, health, family, nice weather…

The smiling faces of the children you’ve met, and the smiling faces of the children I met at a Disabled Children’s orphanage in Thailand shows to all there is hope and happiness always.

robertrka

Do I know what to do? Yes! We let extremities enter into our mind and cloud our judgment! Challenge you say? Why not! Failure you say? Of course! When one door slams another one opens up!

You know knowledge is a great thing to posses but unless I don`t start implementing some of the skills that I have taught such as expression through the fine arts, I won`t be truly satisfied.

Part of delusional is living a lie! Have you ever considered maybe you never really wanted to act and do some other field of study? I don`t know your current situation.

I don`t know about your goals Kristin but I am going to fight delusion in own life rather than worry about someone else`s not to say I won`t help someone in need that wants advice however this challenge is about me! Me alone! Good luck to you Kristin, let go of those delusions, hope you get the Lara Croft role, I too also act, so good luck to you. Who knows maybe one day we might do a scene together perhaps? Well, take care! Thanks!

kAre beAr

short response here, but recently i rediscovered an old passion of mine in art. i remember while growing up in high school, i loved drawing, and i did it all the time, whether it was drawing from inspiration or doodling in class. i havent really been keeping up with that during the second half of my senior year in high school. last night, i found an old sketchbook i bought two years ago, and i was suddenly reminded of my dream of pursuing art when i was younger (now i’m majoring in computer science in college). i sat in front of the book for hours, but i couldnt think of anything to put on paper. instead of drawing something, i ended up writing lyrics of songs that mean something to me. i guess it makes me sad to know that my passion for drawing has reached a certain limit, but ive realized that my passion for music has been awakened. in the years that i havent been drawing, ive been spending time playing the guitar and getting reacquainted with the piano. i do understand the limits i have in music, but i hope my passion for it wont die the way i did with drawing. not saying my love for drawing has completely died, but i do hope to one day find the inspirartion i had years ago.

in relation to kristin’s blog, i do realize that ive challenged myself to the point where i realized that ive reached my limit. and through this experience, ive found new passions and challenges and am determined to see them through the end.

Blader3157

I like your “short and to the point” message kristin, sometimes it’s not necessary to write or detail in length. I also wanted to comment, since this is really hitting home with me at the moment. I worked my a** off last year to get my Master’s degree in criminal justice in one year rather than two. I was 22 when I graduate, because I wanted to get out in the field a year earlier than my peers. And during my senior undergrad year I was involved in several clubs, wrote an honors thesis, presented at countless conferences, and took graduate level classes. The year doesn’t even register with me, it all feels like a blur, even now.

Which I’m not describing for any praise or compliment from anyone, I chose to take that course of action, and I’ll only accept praise when I deserve it. But…given the economic status of America and the recession, to say I’ve been having difficulty finding work is an understatement. And similar to what you said, I don’t want to be deluded by my actions or my beliefs. I don’t want to fantasize about my goals and future, when I should probably be acting more practically and realistically. So I thank you for sharing this moment with us and with me, because I know full well what you’re going through. As are many of us at GBD, myself included, and hopefully we can all reflect on not only what you said but on this particular moment in each of our lives.

Christina

genvixen79@yahoo.com

@kailin…you really are an amazing writer/author…what i admired most to authors is their vast imagination of conveying words…i just love reading every comments u posted here.

robertrka

I`ve never left these many comments to one actress in my life! Kristin you`ll be fine. If your talking about “Chun Li” that was a mishap! You were great in it but the story line sucked, however every time we fail we take something from the experience.

At least you tried. You`ll be fine. Excepting the delusions and failure is part of learning who we are. Kristin you`re fine, you just want to achieve another level, and that’s good. OK! this is a real short comment for me however I don`t want you to dwell on this delusion thing. Meditate, pray about it, execute the right plan, balance it, and move on!!

By the way I am taking in you`re advice also, part of giving advice is accepting advice from others. Thanks again! Write some more!!

Kailin

@genvixen79@yahoo.com – Awwww!!!! Thank you very much. I enjoy writing for GBD and commenting on GBD, mainly because of the amazing women and girls I’ve met and become friends with here. Every time I write in, it’s like I’m talking to old friends. Your comment is awesome and made my day…and it is the simple act of kindness which you’ve displayed right here, that makes the world a better place

starlight_shakedown

I definitely went through a lot of failure and realization this past year. It was my junior year of high school and I pretty much just got a slap in the face. I had to sort of wake up and I even though I originally thought I was prepared to deal with it all I wasn’t. I totally thought I could pull off so much more and be capable of doing 100% in all of it. I have to say… it definitely sucked but I have a much better idea of where I’m heading. I’m not giving in though… just trying that much harder. Great blog

genvixen79@yahoo.com

@kailin..your pretty welcome! U made my whole day brighter too with that response. To tell u honestly, one of the main reason why i amdired authors…is that i have a problem in expressing my thoughts in a better way…there’s a lot of beautiful thoughts rumbling in my mind but i just dont know how to find the exact words to write them..

robertrka

I do hope you get the Lara Croft role. The role would be set a good example for the “Girls by Design”. Thanks!

Blader3157

@robertrka-I would have to politely disagree with your derogatory comment about Street Fighter: Legend of Chun-Li. If you happened to dislike the movie for whatever reason, that would depend on your taste I guess. However, I don’t see how you could dislike the plot, when it directly relates to the title character. I found the movie’s plot to be very empowering, not only for women, but for anyone interested in justice as well. I’m very glad that Kristin chose that role, because I don’t think anyone could have done as great a job as she did. She worked extremely hard on the martial arts, stunts and action sequences, which is evident by watching the film. I hope you would reconsider your position on the movie, or at the very least appreciate the tremendous effort put forth by Kristin as well as everyone else involved in the project. But your opinion is your own, whether I agree with it or not.
Christina

robertrka

@Blader3157
Are you saying that I`m criticizing Kristin`s acting? I would hope not? I enjoyed the movie.

Blader3157

@robertrka-no I wasn’t suggesting that you were criticizing kristin’s acting, I’m sorry if that’s what you took from my comment. However, I don’t see how someone could dislike the plot that much, when the plot entirely involves the title character of chun-li. I wasn’t speaking of kristin’s performance, which was amazing by the way…but I was speaking of the movie in general. Because what I think is that when someone likes a movie as a whole, that would obviously have to include the plot, since that is the basis of the movie.

robertrka

@Blader3157 You`re right. I`m now looking at it at your point of view and I see what you mean. You know sometimes I analyze so much I forget about imagination awareness, and you`re saying that all of the obstacles that she had to go through in film, that made up for the story line.

You know I like the fact when someone else points out something to me to help me learn about things, and I don`t want to think one dimensional, yes very good to you, thanks.

Blader3157

@robertrka-I agree with you, about appreciating when other people help us see different perspectives on an issue. I usually try to stay pretty open minded anyway, but now and again it does help to be reminded. And I’m glad that we’re on the same page now, haha, I’m sorry again about the confusion : ) Christina