College Experience Vlog #2: Goodbye BF and Hello! Jenny is Back!
Hey Ladies!
First of all, so happy to be vlogging! 
It’s so fun! And I also want to thank Kendra for coming up with such an awesome title. Mine was boring, but she made it interesting!
Now off to what I want to get to! I thought I’d share a few tips on how I’ve been coping with the break-up and studies all at once. (These come from my own experience, hope they’re of some use.) Even though I’m no expert, I find these help me out. Hope they help you too.
1. Talk! Cry! – This one is a total classic, but it really helps to let it out. I would feel totally tempted to call my ex, but instead I called my best friend or mom and talked to her about how I was feeling or just simply call to cry, and afterward I would feel a lot better.
2. Keep yourself busy – When you keep yourself busy, you avoid thinking too much about what happened and avoid sinking into depression. If you find a good outlet in studying, then go for it! There’s also: dancing, drawing, writing, listening to music, or just about anything else you enjoy doing.
3. Out and About – Yup! Get out of your room and get some fresh air. Don’t want to go alone? Drag your friends into it! Go to the mall, try a million things on, take pictures! Eat out with your friends! Heck, drag your friend to jog, do some exercise! This really helps with stabilizing your emotions and you feel stress-free! You feel great afterward!
Also, I thought I’d add in a little something. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I remember I couldn’t get back to studying for some reason. I felt like things didn’t matter, nothing made sense. Lesson I learned? There’s a whole life ahead of you! There’s…your entire future ahead! So, prioritize and set goals for yourself that you want to achieve. Keep moving on. There’s something better waiting ahead. 
Have any awesome tips you want to share? Comment with some of your own tips. Can’t wait to read up!
Have a lovely day, ladies!
Love,
Jenny
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December 6, 2009I can remember some pretty horrible break-ups, some were too emotional; Like un-healthy for anyone to be so wrapped up in another person. As time went on, I had other break-ups and I noticed that with each one I would ask myself why I felt so humiliated, so ashamed, so like nothing.
Later, I began to get angry when I realized that my emotions of inadequacy were due to me feeling like my identity was wrapped up in him ,and other times it was because of little comments of comparison that he would make to other girls.
After a while, I determined that I would weigh my emotions to see if they were justified/valid. I found that self examination to work for me. This would help determine if the issue was with a bad self-image that needed to be improved, or if it was a good self-preservation thing, in which case, I just prayed for him so I would not hold any grudges.
Self-examination really helped me to not hold on, it helped me to allow myself to heal, it certainly made me recover quicker and come out with a better attitude.
Emotions are over rated. It’s far better to allow your mind to tell your heart how to feel, even when they dis-agree.